Even healthy relationships endure adjustment, boredom and negativity at some point. We are only human and being humans, we like routines. However, these routines can sometimes be a rut. Morning and evening rituals feel flat; mealtime family conversations become boring and sex feels like an obligation. Once boredom sets in, you might be lured to the notion of ignoring those feelings and expect that they will go away since you do not want to stir things in a good relationship. Sometimes, in silence, dangers are imminent. In every relationship, stimulation is needed; and if your present lives aren’t that stimulating, there are chances that you will look for excitement elsewhere, possibly damaging love relationships.
So, in order to avoid failing relationships read the following simple, yet effective, methods of thriving love.
1. Identify New Activities to Do Together
Create a plan and list of things that you as a couple can do together, engage in diverse activities that are different from your routines. For instance, instead of watching your favorite TV shows, you can both play cards or take a walk in the park. You can also prepare and cook dinner together, join a bowling league, take up dancing lessons, go golfing or take painting lessons.
2. Travel Together
Go on a vacation together, to somewhere new and different, so both of you can experience a new environment together. The two of you should be involved in the planning process so that everything will be smooth-sailing when the trip takes place.
3. Schedule Date Times with Each Other
The start of any relationship seems to be perfect but as time goes by, the eagerness to put that extra effort in the relationship gradually diminishes.
Do not ever stop dating. During the early times on your relationship, it’s most likely that you plan things together. You went to see movies, you went on biking trips, you went on weekend trips. Then you had kids. Now, watching TV right after putting the kids to bed is your idea of a date. Bring back the spark and romance in your marriage.
4. Make Love
You should make love for at least two times a week. You don’t need to put it in your calendar, but it is important that you should make an effort to make love at least once in a week, no matter if your week is tiring. Making love is a technique to maintain intimacy and to grow closer with each other. Spend time cuddling and kissing each other.
5. Tell Your Partner Why You Love Him or Her
Remind your partner on the reason why you fell in love. Tell him/her of the different qualities as to why you appreciate him/her. Cite certain details to keep it believable and real. Just saying “I love you” and “I am thinking of you” goes a long way.
6. Don’t make unreasonable demands
A clinical psychologist and expert on relationships, Seema Hingorrany, believed that one reason why a partner went astray is when the emotional climate within the marriage is already stuffy. One main factor that promotes an unstable marriage climate is when one of both partners has demands that are unreasonable, and that the other partner can’t meet since it’s unrealistic.
7. Keep your ears open
Being a good listener is very vital. There are times that the major reason as to why a partner went astray from a relationship is due to being a bad listener. A usual relationship issue is that both or one person feels that the other is not sincerely listening. This issue of non-listening may happen on purpose or accidentally. So, it’s better to enhance your listening skills.
8. Honesty goes a long way
This is an essential mantra that one should always keep in mind. Honesty keeps a relationship healthy. Be honest with each other. Be direct when it comes to feelings and have your partner do the same. It’s important that you know how your partner is feeling and the things you two can work on to make your relationship exciting.
9. Dress for success
In any kind of relationship, taking yourself and your partner for granted is the easiest thing to do. Always remember that nothing dulls the heart like routine. Get out of those stained shirts and uncombed hair. Take care of yourself and make it a point that you are attractive in the eyes of your partner. Dress up, exercise, and be good-looking always. Your wife, husband or partner needs to know that they are a priority in your life. It doesn’t take much time or thought to tell him or her that you are happy that you are together. Little things can go a long way in every relationship. Like for a woman, a man helping around the house without being asked to can be highly seductive. For a man, his girl being adventurous and bold in bed can be a huge factor. So, go that extra mile and your relationship will last all the way.
